After having studied trauma in many
psychology classes, I wanted to explore it further, as this will be my last
time as an undergraduate to explore this topic. Thinking back to all the
discussions I have had with the children I worked with during the Manheim
Mentoring Program this past summer, I came to the realization that a few of them have
experienced something that would qualify as a traumatic experience. While they
have received help from others regarding their situations, I thought it would
be important to find out some information regarding how these traumas might
affect their future relationships. This led me to a study by Busby, Walker and
Holman, which explores the idea of childhood trauma and it’s affect on adult
relationships. After reading this article, I felt that is was extremely
informative and had results that I would love to share with my mentees from
this past summer. I think that it might be something that would help them in
their future relationships.
While
it may seem obvious that childhood trauma would negatively affect future relationships
of the victims, these researchers take their study to the next level. They want
to find out if the perceptions of one’s self and partner are associated with
the childhood trauma they experienced. If these perceptions are associated with
the trauma, were they also associated with the selection of the partner? This
was the most interesting question that the researchers strived to answer.
In
order to find out if victims of these traumatic situations applies their experiences
in choosing their partner, the researchers used a 271-item questionnaire called
the RELATE test. The purpose of this test was to evaluate the relationship of
the victim and the partner. In most cases, this test helped to make partners
more aware of each other’s experiences and feelings. The questionnaire
illustrated that the victims were experiencing perceptual effects rather than
selection-based effects; this means that victims were not selecting more
neurotic or anxious partners than the non-abused individuals, though they
thought that they were. However, if both partners were abused, they both saw
each other and their own self as being significantly more neurotic.
This
article really opened my eyes to understanding the issues that victims of traumatic
situations experience. Thinking back to all the conversations I had with my
mentees this past summer, I realized that sharing this information with them in
subtle ways might be helpful for them later on in life. They might be able to
take some of what this article is saying and apply it to situations they face
in ten or twenty years. The authors did list some benefits of the questionnaire,
which included:
· Couples will be
able to better understand each other’s issues and hang-ups.
· Helps keep the
influence of trauma in one’s life in perspective: significant effect on one’s
life, but only moderately significant.
· Suggests
appropriate intervention strategies in order to help the victim and the partner
increase positive perceptions of self, partner, and relationship.
So couples, if you would
like to help increase the positivity of your partner perecptions on you
relationship, be more open and talk about the past. As you can see in the
picture above, it is possible to have that happy and close relationship you're
your partner, just as long as open minds and hearts are involved. Although it
can hurt and be uncomfortable, sharing and talking about past experiences and
making everyone in the relationship aware of perceptions and feelings can only
lead to improvments in closeness. As this article suggests, the RELATE
questionnaire helps to make both partners more aware of their neurosis and
anxieties; this can help improve the understanding of each person in the
relationship, and in the end, it will yield a more healthy and positive
relationship. So- be open with each otherl; you never know what might happen!
Busby, D. M., Walker, E. C., &
Holman, T. B. (2011). The association of childhood trauma with perceptions of
self and the partner in adult romantic relationships. Personal
Relationships,18(1), 547-561.
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